If someone does you wrong, how do you feel?
Stressed? Angry? Distraught? Hateful?
Does the word “revenge” come to mind?
Find out why revenge, although a natural emotion, is counterproductive.
Making enemies is very common in human relations. Very few people will live their entire lives without making some “enemies.”
Forgiving enemies is very difficult for many people. Having a desire to take revenge is natural if the person has spread false rumors, been unethical, or caused us harm. We could find ourselves carrying a grudge for many years.
For example, take the case of Harvey McKay who fired an employee. The former employee took what he had learned from McKay and started his own company—in competition. Harvey believed that the former employee created an unfair business tactic. Harvey’s psychic energy shifted into bitterness; revenge consumed him for the better part of five years.
These feelings spilled over into everything he touched. He encountered more stress focusing on revenge. He lost all that time devoted to negative feelings that could have been better spent.
If you can’t take the best advice of forgiving your enemies, then take the second best choice and FORGET them.
Tip: The only way you can achieve true revenge is NOT to let your enemies prompt you to increase your cortisol–the stress hormone, which is your Public Enemy #1. The way to accomplish this is to redirect your thinking. You may not be able to forgive, but you are able to forget by redirecting your thoughts.
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